The Inside of a Man

I was raised with the principle that one does not judge based on appearance. That what is within is more important than what one sees on the surface. I believe strongly in the adage that you never really know what goes on behind closed doors or within the heart of someone else, especially if that someone is a person you have never met before. I think most of us are that way, or at least we try to be. I experienced first hand what it’s like to be at the receiving end of prejudice and judgement when my husband Gary got a part in a movie and was told to let all of his hair grow without any kind of trimming whatsoever. Along with head and facial hair, that meant crazy bushy eyebrows and those wild hairs inside the nose and ears. I’ll admit, he did look a bit scruffy, but all that hair did not change his heart or the man that he is. But based on the treatment we received in public, he was judged just the same, and it made me sad to witness this harshness especially since I know what kind of man he is. Today is his birthday and in honor of him I will tell the world that he is a very good man!

To those who know him, this is already a known fact. He is honest and kind in all of his relationships and those whom he works with truly like and respect him. He would never say anything mean or harass anyone just to get a laugh. He is an incredibly hard worker and has always given an honest days’ work for an honest days’ pay and gives his very best everyday. I know this because I have worked beside him for years and years. Through all the thousands of hours on film sets and all the traveling to locations, I have watched him work and interact with kindness to everyone regardless of position, circumstance, or stressful situation.

For the last 5 years, our desks have been side by side as we work as a team for my brother managing one of his many businesses. I sometimes get comments from other women informing me that there is no way they could be with their husband 24/7.  That I absolutely enjoy this arrangement is testament enough to the man that he is and the way he treats me.  He makes me feel as if he would rather be with me than anyone else in the entire universe. I have heard it said that the greatest gift a father can give his children is to love their mother. As recipients of this legacy, our children will tell you that this is true.

He is absolutely devoted to his children and grandchildren. He would willingly give up a restful day off to work at our daughter’s animal facility, or spends hours after a long day at work, painting and making design changes for another daughter struggling to remake her life after a painful divorce, or create a studio for a daughter who finds solace in clay.

The scriptures teach us the incredible importance of relationships and love. I feel so very blessed to have such a man in my life and I love him more than words can ever say. I believe that when my husband stands before the Lord on judgement day, He will proclaim to all the heavens, “Well done!”

The vignette and Gary in his role as a Pharisee: